Last Updated on August 26, 2021.
It’s not always easy to raise responsible children. How can you shape your child into someone who will make good decisions? How do you teach them to be self-sufficient and follow the law? How can parents raise responsible children? We have 20 tips on this topic that may help!
The easiest way to raise responsible children (not that it’s easy by any means), is to start when your kids are young. The younger your kids are when they start taking on responsibilities, the more likely they are to grow into responsible adults with a good work ethic.
Model Responsibility & Accountability
Kids learn how to be responsible by watching their parents. Kids need to see you following through on responsibilities, and they will want to do the same.
Give Age-Appropriate Chores
Kids need to be given age-appropriate chores so that they can learn how it feels to take on responsibility. That said, make sure you don’t overwhelm your kids by giving too many chores or tasks at once – this will just frustrate them and lead to rebellion.
Require Kids to Cleanup After Themselves
If they make a mess, they should be required to clean it up. Let your kids see that you’re doing the same, and they’ll understand what this means.
Foster a Helper Mentality
Point out the helpers around you. How many people in their lives are there to help them out? How does it feel when they need help and someone is available for support? Also, point out helpers in the community. There are people who choose careers to be helpers, like policemen and firemen!
Always Let Kids Help
If your kids ask to help you with a task, let them (even if it’s more work for you). This will teach them that they’re helpful and competent, which is important for a positive self-image. It also encourages intrinsic motivation, which is the primary driver for responsible people.
Don’t do everything for your child. Let them try tasks on their own, and they’ll grow more independent. This will also help them to learn how to fix things when they break or don’t work properly!
Avoid Giving Step-by-Step Instructions When You Can
Sometimes it’s good to let kids figure out their own way to do things. This will teach them to think through a problem, and it may be more intuitive for the child.
Kids thrive on routines. Set up routines for their day – like mealtimes, bedtimes, and chores. This will teach kids what to expect so they can be more responsible!
Teach Kids to “Make It Right”
Mistakes are inevitable. But it’s critical for kids to know how to make it right. Teach kids how to rectify mistakes by apologizing, making amends, or repairing the damage done.
Let Kids Fail (Natural Consequences)
Failing is a part of life. It’s inevitable – so teach kids how to deal with it! Demonstrate that if they work hard, they will succeed and fail less often in the future.
Labels can be very limiting. Teach kids to focus on their strengths, and they won’t worry about what others think of them.
Teach Kids to Plan Ahead
Help kids learn to plan ahead by setting up tasks and chores for them on their checklist. This will make things less overwhelming, which can lead to a more responsible mindset!
Practice Lazy Parenting
Kids need to learn how to take care of themselves, so teach them by doing less for them! For example, don’t do their dishes. Let kids figure out what needs to be done. Lazy parenting is a great way to raise responsible kids.
Be Clear and Concise about Expectations
If you tell kids what to expect, then they’ll know how to act. For example, if it’s time for bed and a kid is watching TV but knows that this is not allowed, don’t reprimand the child – just briefly explain why they need to end their TV-watching.
Use Positive Language (instead of negative language)
When kids hear “don’t do this” or “no, that’s bad, you have to stop now” all the time, they’ll learn how not to behave. Instead, tell them what to do, like “please use a quiet voice at night”.
Encourage 2-Way Communication
Two way communication is a great way to show kids how they can express themselves and give them the opportunity to learn.
Foster a Growth Mindset
A growth mindset will encourage kids to believe that they can improve and grow, no matter the situation, especially when they make mistakes. It will help them develop a responsible attitude because they’ll know that they can do better next time, and it will also remind them of their own strengths.
It’s important to set limits for kids. If they are not aware of these guidelines, then they’ll be more likely to act without thinking about the consequences. Sometimes it can be difficult because some children will push back when parents ask them to do something. Stick to your guns!
Create Effective Consequences
It’s important to have consequences for irresponsible actions. These should be natural (if possible), but you can also use related consequences, such as taking away a toy or privilege when they abuse it.
The Bottom Line
The bottom line is that there are many ways to raise responsible children. What matters most is teaching them the skills they need! Start now to raise responsible kids who thrive as adults.
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