Find out how positive parenting can begin at infancy. But don’t worry! If you’re a little later in the game, that’s ok! It’s never too late to start using positive strategies to grow amazing human beings. Spoiler alert: Positive parenting strategies can even impact your adult relationships.
I remember being pregnant with my first daughter and stressing over things like the color of her nursery and feeling immense pressure to find just the right name. There are so many aspects to becoming a parent. It’s overwhelming. And one of the LAST things I was thinking about was our parenting strategy. I mean, do you even need a parenting strategy for an infant?
Here’s a big secret most parents don’t figure out until they’re well into their parenting journey: parenting style is about the parent’s behavior, and not the child’s behavior.
What is Positive Parenting?
Positive parenting is about developing meaningful relationships with your kids by offering them a significant place in the family unit and engaging with them in a respectful, positive manner. A common misconception is that positive parent is the same as permissive parenting. Positive parenting is not about saying “yes” to every request. In fact, part of the process is developing a positive relationship where the answer “no” is not only acceptable, but respected. Check out the science behind positive parenting here.
How to Practice Positive Parenting with an Infant
Positive parenting tools are ones that parents use. Not children. While most positive parenting tools require some engagement from kids (typically ages 1 and up), there are others you can practice even with infants!
- Using positive language and foster a growth mindset within the family
- Read books about feelings and emotions
- Practice using a calm voice in tense situations
- Avoid screen time of any kind (until age 2 according to the CDC)
- Practice positive affirmations with kids daily (include clapping!)
- Avoid labeling and comparing kids
- Prioritize routines and sleep schedules
- Start implementing these 11 daily habits of highly successful parents
When to Fully Implement Positive Parenting
When your child gets closer to an age of 1, you’ll be able to use more positive parenting tools. By the time kids reach between 18 months 2 years, you’ll be able to fully implement a positive parenting strategy.
So what does that mean?
This means that virtually all positive parenting tools will be useful. Your child will be old enough to understand your requests and have the ability to comply. They will be able to engage with you. And, most importantly, you’ll be able to build a rock solid relationship with your kids that will last a lifetime.
3 Important Tools to Implement at 1 to 2 Years Old
Even very young kids and fetch their own diaper and turn off light switches as they are carried out of the room. Find small ways for your young kids to contribute. The feeling of power and significance will naturally motivate your kids to want to do more!
As soon as your child starts throwing temper tantrums, practice simple grounding techniques. Learning calming strategies early on will help your little one cope with big feelings.
Start Using Consequences
Consequences, natural or logical, can go a long way to improving child behavior. Make sure you follow the rules of effective consequences to make the biggest impact!
What to Do Next
Now that you know positive parenting can begin in infancy, what’s next?!
First, snag our free Positive Affirmation Printables to help you develop a positive growth mindset.
If you’re ready to start your positive parenting journey, I highly recommend checking out this free positive parenting class from Parenting Expert Amy McCready.