Last Updated on September 10, 2021.
Parenting is a demanding position. It requires unyielding love and dedication to raise children to be healthy, well-adjusted adults. Recently there has been an increase in uninvolved parenting which poses a risk to the health of the child. In this blog post, we will talk about what uninvolved parenting is and why it can be detrimental for children.
What is Uninvolved Parenting?
Uninvolved parenting is a form of parenting where parents are unresponsive to their children’s needs. They lack nurturing, warmth, and responsiveness towards their kids. Uninvolved parents may appear to be uninterested or disconnected from the lives of their child. Children raised by uninvolved parent don’t receive much emotional support which can have negative consequences for them as they grow up.
Parents who are uninvolved often set few limits for their children. They may not require them to follow rules, come when called, or complete chores around the house.
What causes uninvolved parenting?
There are many reasons why uninvolved parenting occurs. Sometimes it’s due to parents struggling with depression or substance abuse problems, and sometimes uninvolved parenting is a result of the parent using all their time for themselves to recuperate from work and other stressors in their lives.
Uninvolved parents may be uninvolved due to lack of knowledge on how to be a good parent. They may have had uninvolved parenting themselves, so they are unaware what it takes to bring up kids.
Unplanned pregnancies can also result in an uninvolved parent. If a mother is unprepared to raise children, she may lack the support of her partner in raising them and can become uninterested in their lives.
Characteristics of an Uninvolved Parent
- lack of nurturing, warmth and responsiveness toward their child
- uninterested in the lives of their children
- do not require them to follow rules or complete chores around the house
- set few limits for their kid
- unaware of their schedule or activities
- uninvolved in their school lives
The Pros & Cons of Uninvolved Parenting
There are a number of cons associated with uninvolved parenting, but surprisingly there are a few pros.
Pros of Uninvolved Parenting
- Children have little impact on the parents’ lives
- Kids are unhampered by adult expectations
- Children are unsupervised and can make their own choices
- There is more time for the parents to focus on their relationships
Cons of Uninvolved Parenting
- Children are unsupervised
- Children lack discipline
- Most kids have poor academic performance
- Children may develop behavioral issues
- Children lack guidance in social situations
- Kids lack coping skills to
- Kids tend to engage in unproductive activities
- Children may develop unsecured attachments and lack trust in adults
What are the effects of uninvolved parenting?
For the uninvolved parent, there are few consequences of uninvolved parenting. However for children, uninvolved parenting can have negative effects on their social development and academic performance.
Children who lack discipline tend to become more defiant towards adults or authority figures which means they may find it difficult to make friends at school or get along with other kids in the neighborhood. Children may also lack self-control and become unruly in their behavior which can make other parents uninterested in them as friends for their kids.
Uninvolved parenting has been associated with lower academic performance especially if the parent is unresponsive to children’s needs or doesn’t know how to connect with his child properly. If there are fewer expectations of the child or uninvolved parenting, then children may not be motivated to put in their best efforts at school.
Children raised by uninvolved parents are more likely to lack empathy and tend to engage in unproductive activities which can lead them down a path of delinquency. They also develop unsecured attachments with adults which make it difficult for them to develop trusting relationships with others as they get older.
How to recover from uninvolved parenting
If uninvolved parenting is a result of depression or substance abuse, then the best way to recover from uninvolved parenting is by seeking help. A therapist can help parents work through their issues and become more involved in raising their children.
Parents who are uninterested in being engaged with their kids should be willing to seek support for themselves so they can become involved with their children. Even unplanned pregnancies are a reason for parents to seek support as they may not be ready or willing to raise kids on their own.
4 Things You Can Do Today to Be a Better Parent
- Take a parenting course.
- Commit to having one meal a day as a family.
- Spend 10 minutes of uninterrupted time connection with your child daily.
- Start a hobby together with your child.
The Bottom Line
Uninvolved parenting can have a negative impact on the child’s development. Good parents are involved in their kids lives. Parents who aren’t uninterested in their kids, but just lack parenting skills should seek support from family and friends or enroll in a course to become better parents.